It’s not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it. -Lena Horne
I don’t like asking for help not because I’m proud but because I hate troubling others with things that I think I should resolve by myself. I hate to the thought of driving people away because I burdened them too much.
I hate feeling useless. I hate feeling fragile. I hate feeling weak.
But I learned that asking for help is not a sign of weakness and it doesn’t mean you’re completely useless. Yes, you keep yourself wide open and vulnerable when you ask others for assistance but it’s also a sign of growth. You allow yourself to be touched, to share and to depend on another person. It’s not bad to rely on others once in a while. Asking for help is better than pushing yourself to your limit or doing a half-assessed job. Nobody’s perfect. We can’t do everything on our own. We all need somebody, its human nature. There’s nothing wrong with admitting you’re not Superman or Wonder Woman. At one point you will need a helping hand to assist and guide you, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s better to shout for help than to drown because of pride.
Independence is a good trait. We all need to know how to stand on our own two feet without the help of others. But that doesn’t mean you have to slap every hand that tries to support you. There are times when you have to admit that doing things with someone is better than going at it alone. And it doesn’t mean you can’t help others either. Sometimes walking side by side with someone is better than walking ahead or holding back alone.
Trust is the key. Trust on the people around you, trust for their support, and trust in yourself. Trust that asking doesn’t mean feebleness; it’s just another lesson that you need to learn in order to improve yourself and move forward.